Have you ever dealt with a person who tends to push their opinions on others? Normally this person means well, but they can be annoying to deal with. Have you ever wondered why these people are opinionated? Sebastian Hirsch did a recent research to why other people can be highly opinionated. “When I was in school, I had a friend who was a butler and was in charge of the highest class servicing to some of the wealthiest people in the city. He thought he was better than all of them, because without him, they wouldn’t have what they needed. He was depended on which made him felt in control” said Hirsch. “Because of his class, position and responsibility, he often told others how to live their lives and what was acceptable,” he continued.
Over the years of friendship with this man, Hirsch learned how he thought and how to deal with him. “What we should do first in order to getting along with people like my ex-butler friend is establish reasoning of their opinion. We should ask ourselves questions such as where did this person acquire their thought process and information? Why are they holding on to this opinion? What will they do if they are wrong? Are they trying to benefit me or themselves? Is this strong opinion or strong advice? These questions will help you understand a bit more of why they have this opinionated thought process to begin with. It could be that perhaps they don’t know any better or just maybe they could know something that we don’t and it’s strong advice. Maybe they have a lot of experience about what they are opinionated on and there is no right answer.
The first step is to understand that highly opinionated people mean well and although annoying, they want what is best for everyone because a lifestyle, beliefs or way of doing things works for them.